Who are you (don't include your name)? What makes you who you are and what properties or attributes are distinctly you and no one else?
I don't think there's anything in particular that's ever made me incredibly distinctive from anyone else! I hate when people say this, but I'm a parent first (gag), a musician second. I'm quiet, and a homebody, and spend a lot of time making music no one is ever going to hear.
I'm a work in progress. I don't suppose that makes me any different than anyone else, but not everyone can admit to that. I'm not all the way done cooking. I've got a strong connection to my roots, but I'm in a constant state of being away from them and learning to still hold on. I'm learning to deal with every new thing that's thrown my way while still remaining true to myself. I don't quite understand the old soul title I'm often given. I still play Zelda on a daily basis and listen to Warren G. I'm passionate about what I do, I'm passionate about the people I hold close, and I try to maintain a level head. I would think just being myself makes me distinctly me.
I am a mishmash of histories and personalities. I am both introverted and extroverted. I am all of my parents, the good and the bad parts. I am other. I am on the outside, it feels, always. I am magic, and there's magic everywhere, so maybe I'm everywhere.
I am a mid-west girl trying to be a working actress in Hollywood. I'm still learning about myself everyday. It's a never-ending process.
I'm just me: the awkward, chubby, artsy, socially inept, people-pleasing, swotty nice girl that I used to be and the loud, awkward, do-whatever-I-feel-like, responsible, silly, comfortable woman I am now. I think I'm quite thoughtful and have the most ridiculous sense of humour and have gotten more childish and ridiculous and free the older I've gotten. I think that makes me me.
I'm not sure. You could say I'm a million things that have all been locked up tight inside a skull. As for what makes me who I am, I'd say it's a combination of things. There were certain values that my parents instilled upon me at a very young age and that have never left me. They were the ones who taught me why it's important to show love instead of hate and kept me open to all the different things that this world has to offer. I also believe that every experience you go through shapes you into someone and that person is constantly changing because you're constantly growing.
I am a great many things so I don't really like to put a label on it but I think the people that I surround myself help make me who I am. The love and support I get from my friends and family make me into a better version of myself. What makes me distinct is my honesty, the way I love, my kindness, that I can laugh at myself. I try not to take things too seriously.
An alien and I've got my penis attached to my forehead. My sense of humour is definitely not best attribute- case in point. I am a person who will always boldly stand up for their views despite opposition. Isn't it good enough?
I'm a bitch, I'm a tease, I'm a god on my knees. That joke is weak even for me, but I'm someone who tries to be funny, doesn't take themselves too seriously, and cares about other people, sometimes to my detriment. I'm a partner, a friend, a father, confidant, I'm every jew-man, it's all in meee. Okay, omit that. The things that make me uniquely me is my optimism, my consideration, my passion for the things that I care about and love.
I'm an American actor. I feel that what makes me me is my integrity, my loyalty, and my commitment to my work and those closest to my heart. I don't think I have any attributes other than my DNA that make me different from other people, or at least, I hope there are other people who have the positive qualities that I feel I possess.
My dad says that I'm colorful. To a lot of people, I didn't have a normal childhood. I think I did, but a lot of my stories are so far-fetched to most of my friends. So I suppose those are the things that are distinctly me. My stories. My lessons learned. All my colors.
I'm a son, a brother, an actor, an advocate, a friend, a dog lover, a cook, an artist, a musician, a cinephile and a complete mess. I am who I am because of my parents, because of my family and my upbringing, my career and my relationships. I'm a whole made up of little parts, but I think those parts are all relatable to someone else. They all make me unique, but none of them belong to just me.
We all struggle with various facets of ourselves especially in our adolescence, what was something that was a struggle for you that throughout growing up you have learned to really embrace and love yourself for?
What I struggled with as a child wasn't so much my own identity, but my environment. My father suffered from a botched surgery when I was young, which left him very much immobile and dependent on pain medication just to be somewhat functioning. That would be the end of childhood as I saw it. I grew very introverted as a result of it for a long while, and it's taken many years to reverse that. I also realised that there were responsibilities I now had in regards to help keeping our household afloat, and making sure my mother wasn't completely alone in all of it. Between my brother and I, think we did our best. If I learned anything that I could embrace myself for, it would be resilience and determination to get through any sort of adversity that came my way.
Manage my emotions, avoid drowning in my pool of misery when things didn't turn out the way they were planned. Now I get the right hump fairly regularly instead and that is okay because it helps me move on faster.
As a kid I was kind of chubby and my parents brilliantly put me in a frozen yogurt commercial trying to get kids to eat healthy alternatives to ice cream. Everyone basically made fun of me for it plus I had braces and had to deal with all sorts of other dental contraptions. Eventually I shed the weight just because I grew up and while that experience may not have taught me exactly to accept myself as I was, it taught me who my friends really were and surrounding myself with good people is just one way to love yourself because you don't want to surround yourself with negativity.
I think in general I'm a pretty self-conscious person, but I was lucky to be friends with people older than me so no one bothered trying to stuff me in any lockers. I used to really struggle with feeling too pragmatic to go for the things that I wanted. I was always wanting for something more, something that I did end up getting to do, but when I was younger I would rarely ever allow myself the right to dream, I held myself back. I think it comes with age, realizing that you can go for the things you want and it doesn't make you horrible or selfish at all.
When I was younger, I found a difficulty in juggling my academics and my athletic hobbies. I had my passions, and I had my desires for the future, but it was hard because I was straddling the fence. I was a nerd, I was a jock. I needed to find some balance. Part of me regrets giving both of those things up, not following through in school and not pursuing my love of sports, but I'm happy with where I landed.
Connecting with other kids my own age on my terms rather than theirs, being uncomfortable in my own skin. The cheesy, old adage is true about needing to love yourself first before being able to love others.
Being a woman, essentially. I was a tomboy from the beginning, and I struggled to let go of that, to learn what identifying myself as a girl who had gotten her period and been told she was a woman now. It was my hardest journey, but looking back, my favorite one yet.
My stature. I deal with it by standing taller in other ways.
Racism was difficult. I wasn't white enough despite my mom and I feel like my father always resented that I wasn't interested in athletics, or assimilating entirely into his culture. I didn't fit into any box, no matter how hard I tried. I resented that feeling, a lot. I resented my parents for making me feel that way. But now, as an adult, I love what that taught me, I love my adaptability and how I can hold two very important histories inside me at once.
I had a dad I only ever saw on television. It was the most bizarre feeling, growing up and knowing this person existed but only as a two-dimensional image on a screen. He had no interest in me, and seeing him on the telly and knowing that's who this person was, was absolutely surreal. I never needed him and rarely missed him, but it always struck me as sad that he'd rather be inside the television than out here in the living room with his family.
Paralyzing shyness. Growing up most of my mates were extroverted and I struggled with finding my place in a crowd of people who could say and do whatever they pleased without a hand of fear holding them back. I let myself sit in class in silence, I didn't want to share my answers because I felt like I would be judged, I was very insecure and unsure of myself. I don't want to say I learned to love this fear, I've come out of it in my twenties, thankfully, but it's something that's still there and I've accepted. I won't be the loudest mouth or the most adventurous conversationally with strangers, but I think there's a certain mystery to shyness that I do like having.
I don't know if there's anything I've learnt to love that I struggled with. My addictive personality is something I struggled with most of my youth, but I don't think I've ever grown to love that quality. My faults are my faults. I don't particularly like them.
How are you different now from the person you were 10 years ago? How have you changed, how have you remained the same? Are you proud of the growth that's occurred? Are you ashamed?
Ten years ago I was just starting to get back on my feet after being a self destructive addict. Today, I'm stronger and more successful. I still make bad decisions, but they're fewer and far between. I'm proud of my progress and I know that my family is proud of my progress. I don't think they really wanted to claim me very often when I was a much younger man.
I'm much more of my own person and I don't count on other people to make decisions for me just because I think they know better. I take charge of things now and I know the direction I want to go. There isn't this need to find myself because I feel like I've already done that and it makes me proud.
Ten years ago I felt like there were multiple people living inside of me and I had no idea which one was truly me. I had no idea who I was, I was selfish, didn't know what I wanted out of a relationship after being in one for almost ten years, I let fear and anxiety dictate my life. Today I know who I am, I'm stronger than I've ever been, I know what I want out of a relationship. Most importantly, I know what I don't want and I'm not afraid to say no. Ten years ago I was very much a yes person and sometimes I still feel the urge bubbling now, but if my head is telling me something, I don't bend, I stick with what I believe. Fear and anxiety are still parts of me but they're not controlling me like they once were. I'm more relaxed now.
Ten years ago I was much younger and recovering from a marriage I wasn't ready for, even if I still loved that person a lot. I was trying to work to keep my mind off how burnt I felt by it, and shut out everyone and everything. Today I am more open to love, should it happen, but still cautious. A lot has changed, a lot of the people in my life now weren't there ten years ago - which makes all the difference.
I am stronger in many ways, but in other ways, small ways that can be paralyzing if fed which is why they're deceiving then find myself I am further in the hole, unsure of how to break out of old habits and the tendency to run, to shield up when things might hurt me. However, this crack in my armor has taught me how beautiful it can be when you let another pair of eyes see you, to then find those eyes look at you as though they love you. It is then, right then, when I say, thank you, thank you for this weakness because it brought me closer to you.
I'm still an emotionally driven person, but I conduct myself more honestly than I did 10 years ago. I'm very proud of the growth I've made, as it's made my life a little less complicated.
Ten years ago I was married to someone who turned out to be very insecure and self involved. He wasn't really a man because he couldn't handle my success. I'm really proud of myself for getting out of that and moving on with someone who truly loves and supports me, someone who I've built an amazing life with.
Ten years ago, I was pretty much the same person I am now. I had grown up very quickly in the few years before, thrust into the limelight and trying to keep who I was, to not be tainted by the industry. I'm still the reserved, private person I was then, someone who eschews the glitz and the glamour to be a quiet homebody, but now I'm more focused on the future, towards family.
Actually, I remember sleeping really well then. Now I sleep on a bed of anxiety-tipped nails. No, I am proud of what I become and that is because I regret nothing.
At my core, I'm still very similar. I think I was more selfish then, but less self-assured. I was more likely to feel beholden to others expectations of me, something that is just a natural part of growing up is realizing that you hold your destiny in your hands and you don't have to do x, y or z, just because of what your parents, mentors, or anyone else wants you to do. In my heart of hearts, though, nothing really changes. I still have an annoying laugh, I still like to try and inject fun into whatever I can, I still tell dad jokes. I'm still that person from that place, that does that thing. Nothing has ever really driven me too far away from who I started out as, and I hope I end in the same way.
I'm still ridiculous, have a slightly less potty mouth, am more careful about whom I share with, depend less on the opinions of others to form the basis of my self-worth, worry more about how I can have a positive impact on others.
I'm a much more confidant person than I was ten years ago. I was kind of new to Los Angeles/New York and new on the acting scene. I didn't know what I was doing really so there was a lot of faking it until I made it going on. I'm very proud that I now feel like I have a place in this business. Back then I had no idea where I wanted to go with it so it's nice to see that I've forged my own path over the years.
Where do you see yourself going from here, what are your personal goals for life, longterm or short-term?
Wherever the road takes me, the possibilities are endless. I'm not much of a planner, I never have been. I do want to attach myself to projects that scare me, projects I believe in. I want to keep doing that so I can grow as an actress and as a person, to get my hands dirty behind the scenes. I want to be a strong mother for my child, someone he or she can believe and confide in. I have never been someone who had a strong desire to get married, I didn't believe it was carved into my path, I always loved the idea of being with someone and that was that, no pieces of paper, nothing else was needed. One day I'd like to change that.
My goals are shared with my husband because we're so alike and have the same dreams but we just want to enjoy work, friends and family, and all the wonderful things we have and build our family.
Traveling. I will never stop traveling. I could be 90 and I'll still find a way to get myself to Paris. I also want to keep working because I'm lucky enough to do something that I love with all my heart but at the same time I don't want to live in front of the camera. I'd love the chance to be behind it more often. Having my own family is also on the list but that will probably be in the distant future.
My short-term goal is to get a new apartment.
I would like to be married with children someday. I'm thirty so I should probably start thinking about that more but I really just like things to fall in to place. I also want to continue on with my acting career as a long term and short term goal. I'm always wanting to be better and perfecting my craft so in a few years I want to be able to look back and see my growth.
From here I see myself continuing to challenge myself, to keep writing, to keep having things to say, to keep making things and have each one be better than the last. I want to keep topping myself, never settle or accept less than what I deserve. I want to be the type of person, and man that my friends and family are proud of, I want to make things that inspire myself and other people. I want to get married to the woman who makes me feel irrevocably more like myself than I have ever known, maybe get another dog. Have some more kids, why not have it all?
I love where my career is going in that I don't know where it's going but the opportunities are only getting better and women are creating and able to get involved in more interesting work. I'd love to have that success in the rest of my life, fall in love, make babies.
Open, open, open, be open.
I want to raise my kids to be good people and keep making music, even if I'm the only one who ever hears it.
I just want to keep making movies. I plan to direct, even if a coworker who shall not be named said I would be a nightmare as a director because I wouldn't let anyone get away with anything. And at some point I'd like to really settle down and get married and have children.
I want to find a place that's mine, where I've got a community around me. Be that family, or friends, or something, I feel quite isolated where I am -- which breeds creativity, but isn't going to be good for me in the long term. Once I've done all I want to do, I want a soft place to fall.
I know where I'd like to go, but you never know how the winds will change. I can only hope to continue on the same trajectory that I've found myself in. I hope to continue to be inspired to write and create things that people can relate to and enjoy. I hope to be a good partner. I hope to not get so focused on my work that I miss out on life. I hope that I don't become jaded by things.
Who is the person that has inspired the most growth and change in your life, what is it about them that has done such a thing for you, what is your relationship like with them now, are they still in your life?
I've changed a lot in the past year, and I think that is because of one person. She's inspired me to be more honest, not only with others, but with myself. She pushes me to think about things from other perspectives, to not be afraid of what I think and feel. I don't think she's used her feminine wiles to do it, but she's smart and funny and puts me at ease. My relationship with her is stronger now than ever, and I hope to keep her in my life forever.
I think a lot of inspiration does come from within, you have to believe in yourself because there's not always going to be someone who is cheering for you, but when you do find someone who is willing to do that no matter what you have to hold on to them. The person that has been my biggest motivator is someone who has shown me new ways to experience things, when you're lucky enough to love someone but also feel their love radiating back that's special enough, but to feel like they make you better than you are on your own is pretty special to me. When they enrich all of those things about you that you always wished there was more of, and love you in spite of the things that you both know you're not good at, there's so much comfort and freedom in that. She's my best friend and I hope she's always in my life.
That person would be my mom. I've been her shadow since day one and she'll always be in my life no matter what happens. She went through a lot of personal stuff while raising me but never allowed it to take away her smile. Somehow, she found the strength to tell me that the sun will still come up tomorrow even when her own world was dark.
I would say my mother is one. My mother was in my corner when I left college first; it took my father much longer to respect my decision, which I think came more from a financial standpoint than anything else. He's supportive now, but my mother has always pushed me to really go for what my gut told me to.
Oh my gee, so many people how can I choose? Honestly, I'll say it's the person I'm with. He thinks I'm such a cool person but being me has been easy for a long time. Being me in a team with someone who comes from a totally different background hasn't always been easy. So there was a lot I worked on. He helped me to open the door for myself, if that makes sense. I don't care if it's your significant other or your sibling or best friend or whatever the relationship - when you have someone that you can be 100% yourself with, you've hit the jackpot. You feel free.
Every broken heart I've acquired, and all the people who broke it. They're one big mash of people, in my head, that I can parse out and examine as individuals. And then, on the other hand, every person I've crushed under my own impossible bullshit.
My grandparents. They taught me how to live with courage and dignity. I also own them about 175,000 and a hell of a lot of square sausage.
Obviously, my husband who I talk about much too much. He's so kind and inspiring with his big heart. He's absolutely a giver in every way imaginable. Just showing me that there are kind souls like his in the world has changed so much for me.
My partner. In a short amount of time he's taught me patience and kindness unlike any other person, he's showed me that people can surpass your expectations despite the height you keep them raised up to, that not everyone is going to let you down. He balances out all of the cynicism in me with his optimism. I've learned more from him in a year than I have in a relationship with someone for nearly ten. When you're faced with obstacles together and you push past them together and come out stronger than you ever have before, it's a rarity after being with people who would flee for a long time. It's a rarity to want to be with someone and not want to run away screaming yourself. If someone can accept the darkest parts of you and love you for them, you've a good thing going. This person is still in my life and I couldn't be luckier.
Emma Thompson is everything I want to be when I grow up, and that she showed me such kindness once by talking to me like a human being and reminding me not to get caught up in the bullshit of the industry and to respect myself.
My sister, who recently demonstrated to me what it means to let go of yourself to let more of another person in.
I've probably been inspired the most by my three sisters and my brother. Even though I'm the oldest I still learn from them everyday. And each one has such a different perspective on things. They've helped me grow a lot and I'm still very close to them even though we don't all live in the same state.
What do you love about yourself? What are your most attractive qualities? Alternatively, what do you not like?
I like that I am a fairly easy-going person, even if it means getting walked all over quite often. So there's like and dislike all in one.
I have great hair, so far, until it falls out and then I am left weeping in the shower. I think I'm understanding, a good listener, I can take a joke, a good friend and someone who is loyal and good to have in your corner. As far as what I don't like, well, I get in my head too much, I make really small things seem so much bigger in my mind, I'm really like a pissy child sometimes.
I'm the first person to shy from any sort of self adulation, so this is a difficult thing to answer. I would think, if anything, I can say that I am good to the people who are good to me. I try my best to bring positivity, or a laugh, even if the situation is a bit on the somber side. I don't take things, or myself, too seriously, which I think is a quality people appreciate. Something I don't like, or rather I struggle with, is being closed off. It's not an intentional state, merely a cautious place I come from. I think it might make me seem a bit aloof or uninterested, which can make it a rough road to make close relationships. It's something I constantly work on.
I'm compassionate, empathetic, generous, and honest. I'm independent and sometimes I believe I'm kind of funny. Sometimes. I'm a good time, I can adapt in any situation, I'm quick on my feet and intelligent. I've moles splattered everywhere and I've really learned to love and embrace my spots. I love how I can find the good in just about anyone. For as patient as I can be, I don't like how impatient I get. I'm always in my head and I can be high strung and irrationally emotional. I still have fear in me and I let experiences that happened in the past get in the way of my happiness at times.
I love my sense of humor. I think it gives off a nice charm when I'm speaking to people. I love that I'm weird. The things that I think about can be twisted sometimes. I'm going to guess that comes from my love of dark things, such as horror movies. I would choose those over a romantic comedy any day.
My accent. I was pretty good at Kermit the Frog impressions as a child. Freckles. It's what I most dislike about my appearance.
Honestly, I love every single thing about me. If anything, I wish I was a little younger sometimes but I can't change that.
I've gotten parts for my lips and boobs, but I love my eyebrows. They're stark and expressive like my dad's, and my smile reminds me of my mum's whenever I look in the mirror. Those same boobs make it harder to find clothes that fit properly and are a distraction.
I don't like my man belly. I don't like how easy it is for me to let people crawl under my skin. I don't like that even when someone is so fucking wrong in a situation, I still want to forgive. No matter how hard I try, I eventually give in to the worst kind of people sometimes. Because I always want to see the best. I always want to believe in the best. I love and hate that. I love that I can forgive when it counts. I love my laugh. I love that I love so hard. I know it's not possible, but I always want to be friends with anyone. To me that's better than always seeing someone as an enemy.
I love my optimism. I love that I can believe in things with my whole heart without worrying if it's cool or not. I love that I gave up on caring about being cool after years of agonising over it. I think that I'm a good friend, a really solid, loving friend who isn't afraid to be tender and soft with people, and who encourages people to drop their defences and be okay with being vulnerable. I think sometimes I don't like how easily I trust, and how gullible I can be. I don't do a good job of protecting myself.
I love my imagination. It's complete insanity sometimes but at least I'm never bored. Some of my attractive qualities are my eagerness to experience new things, my need to always remain honest, and my love for puns. I don't like how easy it is for some people to get into my heart. Sometimes I feel like there should be a better wall around it.
I think I'm a very thoughtful person. I think I can pride myself on being openminded. I've come to love the imperfections, too.
What is the worst haircut you've ever had? What memories are attached to this haircut, bad or good? Do you find that you shed personal identifiers when stages and relationships end in your life?
I don't think I've ever had a bad haircut. Just really crazy curly hair. It used to bug the shit out of me because I just wanted 'regular' straight hair like all the girls in school. My hair made me feel different from everyone else and that caused internal issues based on my appearance growing up.
Someone put gum in my hair as a joke when I was a kid, and my mum had to cut it out. It wasn't as bad as I remembered it being, which was choppy, uneven and too short, but I felt like everyone was alawys laughing at me and my hair afterwards. I don't shed things, but I do often find myself on a plane or in a car, driving away not long after one chapter of life ends.
A mullet. It got people off the subject of my hair, but it was still a mullet. I do shed a few, but most of them were never meant to last.
I had a baby afro, quite unruly, lots of squiggly curls all over the place. Since then, I think my hair has been quite under control.
Is it weird that I've loved all my haircuts? I have a bowl cut as a kid but I think I looked adorable. #notallbowlcuts
When I was pregnant, my hair was really short and I didn't like it that much but it was nice not to have one less thing to deal with at the time. But I don't always shed personal identifiers when things end in my life. Sometimes I'm not upset when something ends so there is no reason for me to want to change something about myself to not remember that specific thing, but after my divorce I got a boob job because fuck that guy, which is probably the biggest change I ever made when a relationship ended.
I don't think I have ever cut my hair because of a relationship ending, I used to just grow it until someone told me to cut it or it started touching the back of my neck and making me feel like my own head was trying to Careless Whisper me. I did have a really lame haircut a few times though, and you know I rocked a slight mushroom cut. It was the 90s, let me life.
I've never really had a bad haircut! Oh but there were a few times when I tried to dye my hair red and it turned orange. I do let go of certain material things when relationships end or I move onto a new stage just because I feel like they hold me back. I'm the kind of person who needs a fresh start and has a habit of associating memories with objects. It's hard to move on when you're constantly being reminded of something, so good-bye chair or silly lamp.
I had some fucking awful haircuts all throughout high school. Then, I got to relive that as an actor with some dopey bowlcuts. I don't think that I get new haircuts or change things about myself as a reflection of something ending in my life, because I don't like to change who I am for anyone. If I'm in a relationship where maybe I'm doing something unhealthy on an emotional level, I'll obviously shed that part, but the core part of me remains the same.
I have had countless of terrible haircuts, too many to even count. I'm particularly terrible at being a blonde. It ruined the entire film it was attached to, that's for sure. I've only ever changed my hair for work.
I wish I could include pictures because I've had some bad haircuts. I cut all of my hair off and dyed it bright red once. Looking back i want to say it was out of rebellion, but if you asked me as a young woman I would have said that I just thought it looked cool. It didn't look cool, it wasn't attractive at all and it's a result of drinking and smoking too much weed, I'm sure. I can't think of any terrible life experiences that came along with it. I don't really go into the salon with an idea in mind, I've come to trust the genius who cuts my hair and I usually just let him go wild for the most part. I did go blonde for a short time in the last five years and I think that was because I was over thirty and wanted to have a Madonna reinventing my image moment. It didn't last.
This most recent one isn's great. Keeping up with it and styling it is a pain, and it's at a very awkward length growing out. I prefer my hair long, but initially I cut it all off to keep my kid from pulling it and tangling her fingers in it (bonus points if they are covered with jam).
Do you think that clothing has any bearing on how you see yourself? Is there an item or piece of clothing, shoes, accessory that makes you feel powerful?
I can see how some people call some outfits power suits, but I've never really had one. I enjoy putting on formal wear, and I like dressing up and having a reason to celebrate, especially celebrating others, but I do not feel like I am defined by clothing or shoes or accessories. I'm comfortable in casual wear and formal, and everything in between.
I don't, really. I have a certain amount of shirts and pants to see me through and tend to wear the same things often, things I'm comfortable in. I will say, and I preface this as not a suit man, or concerned about labels in the slightest, wearing an Armani suit did at one point make me feel like I sort of belonged in the place I was wearing it. Only for a moment, though, as my brother decided to take my ego down a few pegs.
In a way it does. My favorite pieces are ones that express my imagination and playful side. My mom always picked out my clothes when I was younger, so she wasn't going to let me wear anything loaded with sparkles and pom poms. However, now that I'm older, I have no one telling me what to wear. I'm free to experiment and wear things with mushroom patterns or crazy colors. I'm free to be me and I think that shows when I wear those things. Just wearing what I want makes me feel powerful but especially my Louboutin pumps with these spikes in the front.
Sort of. I think comfortable clothing that you know you look good in can increase your confidence - a pair of jeans or a leather jacket. I'm a fan of the basics, and investment pieces that will always be in style and last a lifetime. Accessories are just that - accessory. I think it's rare they actually complement an outfit and a decent outfit won't need them to draw attention away from flaws. I have a Burberry trench coat I love that always makes me feel stylish, even if I'm wearing sweatpants and trainers.
A strong pantsuit or jumpsuit makes me feel like Michelle Pfeiffer in Scarface. If I had to throw away everything else in my closet and could only keep one item, I would pick one of the two, easily. Fashion is such a strong representation of who you are as a person, it's a great form of expression. With that being said, a lot of the time I'm out in spandex and sneakers and I realize how lazy that makes me look but to be completely honest, I am lazy when I have to dress myself, it's why I pay my stylist.
I am like Clark Kent (more classic and less Brawny Lumberjack) on a normal day and Superman when I put on my helmet and hop on my bike.
I am the most powerful when I am drinking coffee in my underwear and looking out the window at the morning.
I think anyone who has seen me out and about knows that I am the furthest thing from fashionable. I wear what's comfortable. Tennis shoes, old worn out cardigans, jackets. Clothes I've had for five or ten years. T-shirts and pants with more holes and stains than should be legal. Other people step out and look like they're going to a photoshoot, I'm looking at you Gosling. I think if anything makes me feel empowered, it's my father's wedding ring. I took it when he died and have worn it ever since. I only take it off for work. It makes me feel like he's with me, cheering me on.
I think clothing can definitely have bearing on how you see yourself. If you can put something on and it automatically makes you feel good, or happy or you just think, damn, I look nice, there's so much power in that. Confidence can come from a nice suit, or a pair of jeans that you feel comfortable in, a pair of short shorts that show off your old man knees, to me there's really no limit. Watches make me feel powerful.
I used to think that I had to wear my magic on myself in order to show people how I felt, how magical I truly felt and wanted to be. But then I realised that the people aping that particular style were really just a bunch of coked up arseholes who manufactured spirituality. I just wanted to internalize it, so now I'm a lot more casual in my outerwear. I do like to dress up though.
I definitely feel a sense of power when I'm 'dressed to impress'. Probably more so when I'm in red carpet attire as opposed to my tank top and sweats that I wear around the house. I'm the same way with hair and makeup. When I'm all done up I feel a little unstoppable. I have no idea why that happens to me.
I'm curious to see if anyone answers this question with a no. I want to say that your sense of style has a huge impact on how you see yourself and how you tackle your day. Your clothes can even project your mood. I'm not really glam. Only for events where I'm forced to suck it in to get into things. I love jeans. I love band tees. I love big, clunky jewelry. I do have a pair of boots that I wear all the time because I feel like the baddest bitch ever when I do. I could go on with this question for hours.
Do you think that people deserve second chances? Third chances? Do you think sayings like "once a cheater always a cheater" are true? Do people just do what they want or what they think they can get away with? What are your experiences with the following questions, what do you agree/disagree on.
I think granting someone another chance depends entirely on the offense. Was it done maliciously? Was there malice behind it? Was it an accident? Was it done just to hurt me? I think to be healthy you have to forgive. Going around with that in your heart is just going to eat you alive, but that doesn't mean you have to let someone who hurts you back into your life. I think cheaters have patterns. Sometimes it's a one time thing, sometimes it's chronic. It varies from person to person. But I've never personally been a cheater so it's difficult to say for sure.
This is situational. I do think people will do what they can get away with and it doesn't always apply to relationships. I'd like to think there are decent people out there who will learn a lesson from cheating (and alternatively, being cheated on). But I haven't met any of them yet.
I believe in second and third chances, but only if that person is genuinely trying to be better and accepts help. Humility is important but self-pity is intolerable. I want to believe in the good in people. I have to believe in the good in people. I've never been cheated on, though. Maybe I've just never allowed anyone to have the chance.
Do people always deserve second chances? No. Do I always give them? For the most part, yes. People fuck up, no one is perfect and we need to realize that as humans we're not always going to do the right things. I don't have much experience staying with a cheater because whenever there was evidence of that kind of behavior, I pulled myself out. I don't think it's excusable in any sense of the word. It's not something anyone should tolerate because I truly believe that if someone does it once and gets away with it, they're going to do it again. Look at children, for example, if a child steals candy and isn't caught, the child is going to keep doing it, over and over again. I believe people can change but they can only change if they want to.
This is really a case by case question. I don't think anyone is incapable of change but I do think certain people have chosen not to change. And you have to know whether they will when you're making your decisions to forgive and forget transgressions. Some things are unforgivable, but that's just my own determination, and no one should live their lives by my code just because. I've been with people who have hurt me and I've forgiven, and I don't regret forgiving them. And I've been with people who've done untrustworthy things and I cut them loose because I knew this was just who they were. And I've burned people and they've had to make their own decisions about me and who I am.
While I do think people deserve second and maybe even third chances, I do also think those sayings ring true. People have to want to change but they also need to be provided the opportunity to change. I feel like if you want to give a cheater a second chance, you have to proceed with caution and know that they might fail you. You have to prepare for that. But if you are always going to throw their mistakes in their face, they're not going to change either or even want to. I've never been cheated on nor have I cheated on anyone. I feel like if you want out, you should just say it. Maybe there are some people who think they can do whatever and get away with it but I'd like to believe that not everyone operates that way. I have more faith than that.
I think that people do deserve second chances. I'm not so big on third ones though. It's kind of fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. I don't like when people take my kindness for weakness so I'm pretty strict with the amount of chances I give out.
I believe people deserve what you are capable of giving them. I believe to each their own. People are different. Their rules are. Some I would Bye Felicia others I would fight for.
This depends on the person, and on the situation. It would be ridiculous to think that people don't fuck up and make mistakes, but making a mistake and cheating are very different things. I've never been cheated on that I know about and I have never cheated on anyone else because I think it's a pretty shitty thing to do, especially if you supposedly have feelings for someone else. When you make the conscious effort to fuck someone who is not your partner, that wasn't a mistake that was you wanting to have it both ways, so no, I don't think those people deserve second chances because they will just continue to take advantage of you. If you let someone get away with something once, they'll try it again. People are arrogant like that.
That's a tough one. I did something in the past I am not proud of but does it mean we're defined by our mistakes? There are a shitload of external factors people do not see because for them you are nothing but a piece of shit. Truth is, sometimes our behaviour isn't reflective of our true values or what we want out of life. Or maybe I am just talking out of my arse.
I think everyone deserves a second chance and depending on the situation, I'd even be willing to give a third. When it comes to the whole cheating thing, I don't like to hold a person's past against them. Things happen and people screw up. Hopefully, they've learned from it and won't repeat that same behavior. It's a risk I'd be willing to take because I don't want to be left wondering what could've happened if I'd given them a chance. Some people do what they want and some people do whatever they think they can get away with, but that's not everyone. There are some really great people out there and they can prove that if they're given the chance to do so. I guess you just have to be a little careful.
I believe in second chances, but I don't believe in a third. I don't believe that saying because I do feel like people change. Some people, however, choose to show you exactly who they are. At that point, you should believe them. It's both, but some people are better suited at handling the consequences.
What is something you've always told yourself you would never, under any circumstances, do but you ended up doing anyway? What changed your mind?
I told myself when I started on the path I'm on now, that serious relationships would have to wait. It wouldn't be fair to split devotions between work and personal pursuits, especially in cases where your time is so widely split. Then I met someone that changed all of that. Maybe due to her own schedule, I saw that it was feasible. You can have it all, the good things with hard work. I wouldn’t change it for the world now, and I'm thankful I overlooked my own rules. I'm much happier for it.
Watch Star Wars. PEER PRESSURE MADE ME DO IT.
I honestly can't think of anything. I don't think I've ever limited myself in that way enough that I was so dead set against it. I never thought I'd be a motorcycle enthusiast. I never thought I'd go back to living in my childhood bedroom after I left home. I've done a lot of things I never thought I would do, but nothing that I never told myself not to do.
I always said I would never be into a lot of things, but when you meet the right person and they make you feel like anything goes, or anything is safe with them, it seems only natural that they are going to push your boundaries and make you feel the desire for things that you previously couldn't see the appeal of, sexually and otherwise. I said I'd never try blood play, AND LOOK AT ME NOW!
Live in Brooklyn. I blame my boyfriend.
I've told myself I'd never let myself disappear. I've had moments where I did or was at risk to, losing myself into someone else or what someone else thinks I need to be.
Space docking. It took a lot for my husband to convince me but once he consumed more fiber and he became more regular, that made the decision easier. It kind of became our fun little game, like Tetris, but dirty. And obviously, what convinced me was basically sexy Tetris. Also obviously, this is a joke. I just don't have an answer. We don't do this, I can not stress this enough.
Get married! And I did it twice! I don't know. It's not a decision that was ever based in logic, but something that felt very beautiful in the moment, and the right choice. Emotion won out over logic but only temporarily.
I said you would never catch me in a certain uniform again and after that, I learned to never say never again! The thing that changed my mind was the opportunity it gave me to meet up with my second family again.
I never wanted to live anywhere else but my home country. I used to say all the time that I would never leave. I'd go away wherever to film, but I'd always come back home. Then my life changed, and I had family move elsewhere... and I joined the ranks of those who moved to Los Angeles so I could be with my family. It isn't that I feel any differently, but different circumstances became more important than where I could call home.
Having that second plate of anything in front of me. You get it. Food speaks to you. Who am I to say no?
I got a tattoo. I have something that means a lot to me, and I wanted something more permeant than a piece of jewellery to commemorate it.